Why Doing a ‘Friends’ Cull is Crucial to Your Growth
“Surround yourself only with people who are going to life you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey
You’ve heard the saying: “You are the average of the top five people you spend the most time with.” It may seem harsh but it’s entirely true. You can test this theory yourself. How many little idiosyncrasies and habits have you picked up from your closest friends/family?
So if you’re on a mission to become a successful entrepreneur building an empire, it’s time to take a look at the people you spend the most time with. The best thing you can do for yourself, your business and the world is to become the best version of yourself. This is significantly hampered if you’re surrounded by people who don’t recognise this.
Right now, think about the people you’re surrounded by. Ask yourself: Are they where you’d like to be in life? Do they inspire you to be the best version of you? Do they make you feel good?
If you answered no to any of the above questions it’s time to do a friends cull.
Let’s get one thing straight…we’re not suggesting you stop taking calls, disappear from the face of the Earth or tell anyone who has ever said anything negative to you that you can no longer speak with them. But what we are saying is that you need to carefully manage how much time you’re spending with these people and in what capacity.
This is no easy feat. Many times the most negative people in our lives are our nearest and dearest – our family. Deciding to spend less time with these people or removing them from our immediate circle can be extremely emotional. It does not make you a bad person or mean you love them any less – it means you love yourself enough to respect your goals and desires. Know that the best thing you can do for these people is show them what’s possible – that they too can move outside their comfort zone and create the life they dreamed of.
So how exactly do we go about removing these people from our circle of influence?
- Stop feeding any drama. Negative people thrive of discussing people and problems. The moment any conversation heads in that direction, consciously change the subject to something more positive (even the weather if you have to!)
- Increase your time with positive people. Consciously make an effort to fill up your social time with people who make you feel good and support you.
- Read, read, read. Feeding your mind with stories of other successful people, leadership education and communication skills will not only grow your belief but give you the confidence and tools to deal with negativity in your life.
- Explain your actions. Most of the time, people don’t even realise their negativity affects you. Sit down with your closest friends and/or family and explain where you are headed, what your goals are and that their support is greatly appreciated – and if they can’t offer it, you will need to take some time for yourself.
Here’s to creating a lifestyle by design…