Rejection: How To Ease The Burn
If you’re in business and making a good go of it – you will have at some point (probably on the daily) have been rejected. It stings at first. It can be shocking and hurtful. Sometimes it’s downright excruciating. So how do we become effective at moving past all the rejection to find the gold?
Rejection is 100% a necessary part of growing a business – but that certainly doesn’t mean you have suffer consistently. Mostly, rejection cuts deep because we feel it’s an attack on us personally….which could not be further from the truth.
The moment you realise that people only ever understand at their current level of perception, is the moment you forget about being offended or upset or hurt by rejection, a no, a not yet or someone simply ignoring you. It’s never about you and always about them.
Sounds simple right? Just stop taking it personally. But we are humans and our innate need for connection and approval doesn’t quite allow us just to flick that switch overnight. So, here are five of our top tips that will help you create less of an emotional connection with rejection.
- It’s not about you! Decide to view rejection as a reflection of someone’s perception – not of your flawed nature. In other words: It’s not about you – it’s about them.
- Do the math! Count how many calls or offers you have to make to get a yes. It is 100% possible to quantify the volume of activity you need to do to get a result. When you’re aware of your strike rate, you can be less disappointed with the no’s.
- Ask Why. Be prepared to evaluate what you’ve been doing, what works and what doesn’t. Reviewing and then acknowledging what needs tweaking is a crucial part pf business. When you know, you can implement more of what works and less of what doesn’t.
- Reach out. Chances are there are colleagues or peers who are going through the exact same thing. Share your stories with your mentor, keep your inner circle tight with people who support you and guide you to where you’d like to be.
- It’s not forever. In many cases, a no can simply be a not yet. The pain of that initial rejection won’t last forever ether; and the best way to get through it is to get back on the horse….every no is leading you closer to a yes!
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